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POWER OF COMMUNICATION IN HOME BUILDING
Lawrence K. Ayodele
Good communication is the art of sending and
receiving a clear message. Therefore, good communication
involves the sender (the person talking), the receiver (the
person listening) and a clear message. The most important factor
in a good marriage is good communication. Yet, most husbands and
wives are guilty of poor communication in their home.
It takes a period of time for husbands and
wives to develop a good communication network between
themselves. If husbands and wives are to develop a good
communication network, the following rules must be known and
observed.
Rules of Good Communication
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Husbands and wives must have a quality time
to discuss issues concerning the family.
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The mood of our spouse must be good when
critical issues are to be discussed.
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Issues must be approached in a proper way.
Always speak for yourself. You should speak the truth in love,
Eph. 4:15.
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The atmosphere must be conducive to good
and honest communication. There should be no third party
around. Also, there should be no tension in the home.
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The mind of husbands and wives must be
clear to each other. Any grudge or malice in the mind will
affect the tone of the message or the receptive ability and
interpretation of the receiver. Any misunderstanding must be
handled with love and maturity.
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You should allow your spouse to finish
talking before you respond, Prov. 18:13; James 1:19. A happy
marriage is possible where husband and wife can express his or
her feeling about a given action or situation without fear.
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You should listen to your spouse. We have
attentive listener, passive listener or selective listener.
The best one is attentive listener.
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You should check out your spouse’s
statement as you understand it.
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You should start your discussion from the
area of interest to your spouse. You may start by asking
simple questions?
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The focus of the listener must not be on
the words but the feeling of the person talking.
When the rules of good communication are
violated, there is always communication breakdown.
Effects of Communication Breakdown in The
Family
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Rise of tension in husbands and wives.
Bottled-up resentment constitute one of the greatest dangers
to marriage. It has a way of coming out by way of quarrelling
and fighting between husbands and wives.
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Lack of unity and love. This may force the
family to remain in wilderness for a long time. It also makes
the individual problems to linger more than necessary.
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Loneliness. Lack of communication between
husbands and wives violates the rules of companionship of
marriage, Gen. 2:18.
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Lack of mutual trust between husbands and
wives.
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Wastage of family resources due to secrecy
in the mode of operation of husbands and wives.
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Children becoming wayward because the
parents could not work out the mode of their training.
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It gives room for third parties to
penetrate into the family.
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It may lead to separation and divorce.
Importance of Good Communication in Home
Building
Without good communication, husbands and
wives will have strained relationship. This will affect their
ability to build a stable home. Good communication is important
in home building because of the following reasons:
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Through it, conflicts between husbands and
wives are amicably resolved.
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Through it, husbands and wives express
their feelings to each other.
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Through it, husbands and wives could plan
and take useful decisions for the overall welfare of their
family.
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Through it, children are trained for a
better future.
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Through it, the aspirations of husbands and
wives are discussed for proper harmonisation.
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Through it, the husbands and wives express
their love for each other.
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Through it, the husbands and wives can
express the family’s needs to God in prayer.
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