ACHIEVING MATRIMONIAL HARMONY 2

Lawrence K. Ayodele 

In the first article, I stressed that it takes both husband and wife to achieve success in marriage. In other words, achieving matrimonial harmony is the duty of both husband and wife. I have discussed the roles of husband in achieving matrimonial harmony in the previous article. In this article, I will focus on the roles of wife in achieving matrimonial harmony.

I will like to impress it upon all the wives that they are the managers and home makers in their homes. "A wise woman builds her house, but the foolish plucks it down with her hands," Proverbs 14:1. If you count yourself among the wise and virtuous women, you must create a conducive atmosphere for matrimonial harmony in your home. This will pave way for a stable and prosperous family.

What a Wife Must Avoid

Every woman must avoid the following if she wants to achieve matrimonial harmony in her home.

1. You should not nag your husbands.
2. You should not neglect your responsibilities nor delegate them to housemaid or your sister.
3. You should not attempt to dominate your husband because of certain advantages that you have over him.
4. You should not confess your regret to have married your husband.
5. You should not use sex as a weapon to retaliate your husband's offence.
6. You should not compare your husband with your boss or your friend's husband.
7. You should not force your husband to help you in house chores. Only persuade him for his assistance.
8. You should not impose your opinion on your husband. It is better to suggest to him and allow him to use his discretion in taking decision.
9. You should not allow anything or anybody to stand between you and your husband.

What a Wife Should Do

As it is applicable in the case of husband, there are certain things that a wife must do to create and sustain matrimonial harmony in her home.

1. You should show interest in the career or business of your husband.
2. You should accept and respect the authority and headship of your husband.
3. You should make satisfaction of your husband's need primary.
4. You should show gratitude to your husband for everything he does to keep the family moving.
5. You should treat your in-laws with love and respect.
6. You should train your children to be responsible and loving children.
7. You should always accept your faults and apologise for forgiveness any time you offend your husband.